Sunday, May 11, 2014

Celebrating My Children on Mother's Day

Over the years, I have written poems about my children. The writing came so easily—sometimes being awakened from deep sleep, with phrases or verses already formed—that I consider them inspired. 

Poetry is not my forte, but my poems are heart-felt, oozing with love for my precious gifts from God. 

There are three additional children for whom I've not written poems, but I love them as dearly as my birth-children:

Kristy: You are this mother's dream of a wonderful wife for my son, an awesome mother to my grandchildren, and a precious daughter of my heart.

Evan Jason: Thank you for naming me Nina, for being so entertaining, loving, and so much like your father.

Joshua David: I love your generous heart, your delicious chocolate-coated kisses, and your propensity for climbing (just like your daddy).

This Little Boy

In honor of Matthew Joel
—“gift of God”—

This little boy with eyes of blue,
Who stole my heart when he was new;
Now stands and gazes down at me,
Who once came only to my knee.

This little boy with curious heart,
Who frazzled me (it was his art!);
Now calmly sits and contemplates
Maturity, on which he waits.

This little boy with hugs galore,
Whose fleeting kiss made my heart soar;
Now shuns a motherly embrace,
Delivers no more hearts with lace.

This little boy of energy,
Who climbed all things as if a tree;
Now concentrates his power that be,
Discovering truths in all he sees.

This little boy who stole my heart,
With whom reluctantly I part;
Now carries off a mother’s tear,
But memories will hold him near.

Friendship Tea

In honor of Bethany Joy
—the joy of my heart—

Sipping Friendship Tea with me,
Reading Riley’s poetry;
Lost together in the rhyme,
Losing track of evening’s time.

Stumbling over words so quaint,
Enjoying pictures that they paint.
Sharing tales of friendship true,
Discovering friends in me, and you.

A poetess and protégé,
Create an image on this day,
That finds its way into my poem,
That springs from mother-heart’s rich loam.

My Special Love

In loving memory of Jason David
January 26,1977
—my special love—

T’was deep one night you beckoned me
“It’s time,” you said, “for me to be.”
We hastened through the cold and wind
To care of doctor—our neighbor, and friend.
Excited, fearful, innocent, on shaky knee,
To hospital, “Daddy” hastened “we.”

With morning’s light you did arrive,
With haste and urgency did doctors strive,
Your tiny heart and lungs to awake,
With many a prayer said for your sake.

Mid afternoon, the angels came,
(the doctors said, “no one’s to blame.”)
And winged one tiny soul above,
A part of me—my special love.

My heart holds dear over many a year,
My special child, midst many a tear.
A mother’s heart, fragile, yet true,
A love so heavy, when only new.
Arms outstretched, so full of love;
No one to cuddle, no one to love.

Through stages of grief I stumbled slow.
To husband’s arms daily I go.
Tears without number; waves, crashing grief;
Storm so incessant, beyond my belief.
Healing so slowly, fragile and frail,
Through numberless days of existence I sail.

Feeling so weak, like Paul of Tarsus,
I gradually discover a path to catharsis.
Leaning heavily on Father above,
With wide-eyed wonder, discover His love.
He brought me through and drew me close,
Blessing me with longed for repose.

One tiny son, destined to die,
Turned my eyes upward toward heavens on high.
Like God’s own Son, he leadeth me,
To Father’s arms and the peace I now see.

My Special Love—Part 2

In memory of Abigail Hudson, June 10, 1986
Precious child of Janet Hudson.

For whom God awakened me, in early
morning hours, to write, My Special Love,
in its entirety.

For Janet:

One tiny hand reaching out to you,
leading you onward to a world anew.
When once again angels open heaven’s door,
Jesus will hand you the gilt you adore.

From mother to mother our hearts will convey,
Our pain was well worth it—
For the joy of this day.                     

Friday, September 16, 2011

life IS fragile

Last night I signed into to catch up on my mail.  A shudder vibrated through me as I read a message from Karen: “There is no good way to share this with you. One of our members ­­­­­passed away on Sept. 11.” 

I have been a member of for less than a year and I don’t know people very well—except for rixfarmgirl.  Rixy is one of those gems of a friend who is new in my life—someone I know will become a forever friend.  And now, she is only a memory.  I am stunned, shocked, numb, and so sad. 

The way works is, you post your own writing to be reviewed and you review the writing of others.  One of my essays caught Rixy’s eye, she saw potential in me and began to mentor me.  I consider her my anchor at—and even though she is no longer alive, she will continue to be my anchor.

Rixy was a retired English teacher and published author and in her retirement continued to encourage and mentor other writers.  She gave meaty constructive criticism that is worth its weight in gold.  Forgive me, Rixy, for mixing my metaphors and clinging to cliches—sadly I’m not writing for perusal of your reviewing eye.  (Oops, “sadly” is one of those pesky adverbs you wont let me get away with!  And I’m starting this sentence with “and” and putting this in parentheses—also one of your pet peeves!) 

With Rixy’s encouragement, I signed up to take a writing class in the New Horizon Academy.  I am taking “NaNoWriMo & the 30-Day Novel,” which begins in October.  Rixy was to be one of the instructors.

I signed up, in part, because Rixy was one of the instructors.  Also because I thought it would be a great way to s-t-r-e-t-c-h myself as a writer.  Every day I question, “What have I gotten myself into?”  NaNoWriMo is short for National Novel Writing Month—and I not a fiction writer.  However, I hoped that, under Rixy’s tutelage, I could be successful.  The goal of NaNoWriMo is to write 50,000 words in 30 days.  Gulp…


I responded to the e-mail about Rixy’s death, asking if there was anything I could do to help.  Karen responded, “If you want to help, you can do your very best in the NaNoWriMo course. That would mean a lot to Rixy.”

Rixy, I will be writing for you!  And if a novel evolves, I will dedicate my very first novel to you.

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Man with a Missional Heart

Rex and Linda - '09 Guatemala mission trip 
on hotel roof with volcanic mountain in background.

Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying,
 “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?”
 And I said, “Here am I.  Send me!”
 Isaiah 6:8 NIV

Few things bring tears to my husband’s eye, but the words of Isaiah, whether read directly from scripture, or vocalized in music, cause Rex to choke and tear up.  He takes the words personally, from God to him. 

Traveling with my optometrist husband on eye care mission trips is one of the highlights of our life together.  We’ve been to Honduras, Costa Rica, Guatemala, and Kenya and want to keep going on mission trips.  There’s one problem, however: my health problems.  Fibromyalgia and chronic pain in my right leg, caused by a hodge-podge of issue in my spine, makes walking painful and arduous.

Last winter we signed up to go on a fall mission trip to Honduras with our church but cancelled out a few months later.   No way would I be able to negotiate the steep walking paths in Canchias, the mountain village where we were to go.  I was disappointed for me, but even more disappointed for my husband. 

In July, it became apparent that my left knee, injured in my early 40’s—when I bent down to tie my shoe, no less—needed a total knee replacement.  So I chose to have the surgery the same week as the mission trip we were missing.   Somehow, this soothed my disappointed heart, legitimizing my absence from the team.  

My dear husband, without telling me, decided that he would go on a different mission trip—to our home, to take care of me.  Several days into my recovery, I was thanking him for being so attentive to my needs and he replied, “I decided that I would make serving you my mission.”

He touched my heart and took my experience of his love to a deeper level.  My love for Rex deepened in like proportions.  What an amazing man!  If only all spouses and caregivers were this loving and compassionate.

One of Rex's satisfied patients
I know the limitations of my illness affect us both.  This has to be difficult for my hubby who is an always-on-the-go guy.  If he’s not playing racquetball or golf, he’s water-skiing or riding his bike.  He loves to work in the yard and is a Mr-fix-it extraordinaire.  

For years, he has taken one week of his vacation time (unpaid) to provide eye care to thousands of people who rarely, if ever, see an eye care specialist.  He has a heart for missions.  To think that he chose to be my servant—God’s servant—is a gift of grace beyond measure.  

Rex, you are my gift of grace from God!

Friday, August 19, 2011

Fragile: Handle with Care

My son and daughter-in-law have attempted to help their three-year-old son Evan understand that Nana is fragile and can’t handle being tackled or jumped on, like Daddy and Papaw can.

Evan is catching on to the concept of fragility quite well.  One day he told his mommy, “Nana is fragile.  She’s old, like Panda.”

Yes, it’s funny and I take no offense, but our fourteen-year-old lab Panda is, in my opinion, far more fragile than me.  Poor girl has lost most of her sight and hearing and depends on smell to locate where she is and who is present.  Her spindled legs spread-eagle on her when she walks on tile or hardwood—her Bambi-on-ice impression.  Famous for her jumping ability, she now collapses in a lump on the floor when attempting to leap onto our bed and the sofa. 

Just this week, Evan and his two-year-old brother Josh stayed with my husband and me for a few days.  Seeing stick-it notepads on my desk, Evan asked to have some.  He then proceeded to plaster the notes everywhere.  I didn’t see the pattern until he stuck one on my leg.  He was marking everything in the house that was fragile!  His accuracy was amazing: TV screen, china cabinet, glass top tables, decorative items—and Nana.

During Invisible Illness Week—September 12-18—we hope to raise awareness regarding the difficulties people face when dealing with chronic pain and illness.  My precious Evan is far more aware than most adults. 

I hope you will follow Evan’s admirable example and increase your awareness of invisible illness and how you can support those who deal daily with chronic illness and pain.

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If you are dealing with a chronic illness and pain, Rest Ministries—an online support ministry—invites you to explore and get connected with other people who understand what you are going through.

You don’t have to be old, like Panda—just fragile.

Friday, August 12, 2011

Invisible Illness blog post—August 12, 2011

What is an invisible illness? 

Consider this:

      Nearly 1 in 2 Americans (133 million) has a chronic condition.
      By 2020, about 157 million Americans will be afflicted by chronic illnesses, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
      That number is projected to increase by more than one percent per year by 2030, resulting in an estimated chronically ill population of 171 million.
      Sixty percent are between the ages of 18 and 64
      90% of seniors have at least one chronic disease and 77% have two or more chronic diseases
      In the United States 4 in 5 health care dollars (78%) are spent on behalf of people with chronic conditions. The Growing Burden of Chronic Disease in American, Public Health Reports, May June 2004 Volume 119 Gerard Anderson, PhD
      Source: Chronic Care in America: A 21st Century Challenge, a study of the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation & Partnership for Solutions: Johns Hopkins University, Baltimore, MD for the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation (September 2004 Update). “Chronic Conditions: Making the Case for Ongoing Care”.

If you don’t see a cane, wheelchair, walker of some other form of assistance, then there may be an invisible illness lurking beneath that beautiful smile and cheery voice.  People with chronic illness and pain can be masters at disguising their true emotional and physical status. 

At home I feel free to grimace and groan as I cope with pain, but in public, I do my best to appear “normal.”  I want to be normal.  I want you to think I’m normal.  I also want you to think I’m coping well and accept my limitations and restrictions on activities with an air of grace. 

The truth is, I struggle with this every day. 

I suffer from the mental malady of the “used-tos.”  I used to be able to walk a long way, ride my bike as long as I’d like, take my adorable grandsons on outings.  Activities that I used to take for granted are now off limits.  Places that I used to go—like Honduras and Guatemala on mission trips—now seem to be out of my reach.  I used to hike in the woods, just me and my dog Panda, enjoying nature together.  I used to spend hours weeding in the garden and now my neurologist informs me that this is just as strenuous an activity as playing football.  This may sound like an exaggeration, but I know he is telling me, that, for me, weeding is a danger to the precarious condition of my spine. 

The truth is, I an envious of other people who are able to do these things.   

The truth is, even though I go to God and depend on him in the midst of my pain, sometimes I am mad at him.  

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Invisible Illness blog post—August 9, 2011

For many years, I have written what I call my “ponderings.”   I write about my personal experiences, poking fun at my own foibles and tying my thoughts into a Biblical lesson about God’s grace.  I love nature and find wonderful metaphors with which to spin these nuggets of truth; truth as I see it.  I am not a theologian or minister.  I just like to ponder and encourage others to ponder along with me.

I have a very active imagination, and yet—it seems silly to say—I do not have the gift for writing fiction.  I have to write from my own experience, boring as it may be.  I liken myself to Bert on Sesame St. who collects paperclips and likes pigeons.  What do I have to say that would be of interest to someone else?  In spite of such reservations, I find that writing nurtures me, and I hope that what I write encourages others to treat themselves with a little bit more grace and gentleness, and to welcome God’s gift of infinite grace.


As Invisible Illness Week approaches, I hesitate to write about my aches and pains.  I’d much rather write about what a pain in the neck I can be!  Writing is one way that I escape from inhabiting my pain-filled body.  So to write about what I want to escape seems counterintuitive.  I am taking on this challenge because I believe in the ministry of Rest Ministries, the sponsor of Invisible Illness Week; and I support the mission of Invisible Illness Week. I want to do my part to increase public awareness about invisible illness. 

What is it like to have an invisible illness? 
What is it like for my family? 
How can my friends and family be supportive?
What are my fears for my future?
What do I miss the most, due to the constraints of my health?
What does a good day look like for me?
What does a bad day look like for me?
What helps me through the pain?

These are the type of questions I will be “pondering” over the next few weeks. 

I invite you to read some of my earlier posts along with what I will be blogging about my experience with invisible illness.  I’m much more than my diagnoses and hope to give you a reason to chuckle about my foibles while also learning about invisible illness.

Thanks for reading!

Friday, August 5, 2011


What is Invisible Illness Week?  
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I will be blogging about my own experiences with invisible illness over the next few weeks--so check back with me and learn more about what it's like to have an invisible illness.